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How to help a person that is; angry sad or depressed.
A few tips on how to calm them down and/or help the problem.

1. Don’t ask right away what the problem is. Identify the feeling for example; you look upset, you feel angry etc.Then after they understand that you are empathizing they will either talk themselves or answer when you ask what happened.
   If this does not work you can crack a joke, exaggerating the problem or stating the exact opposite. For example your probably upset because everyone loves you so much that you cant have peace and quiet.Laugh even if your joke is not funny and that will lower their defenses.

1. The first thing you must do is let the person vent. If you try to talk over them they will just get louder and become more angry. The secret to communicating is that while someone is talking, someone has to be listening.

2. Step 2

   Be sympathetic. You don’t have to agree with their point of view, but you can acknowledge that you understand what they are saying and what they are feeling. You can demonstrate this by nodding your head and occasionally repeating what they have said. Keep your voice soft and quiet, this will encourage them to lower their voices too.

An elderly man in Mumbai calls his son in New York and says,

‘I hate to ruin your day son, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are getting a divorce; 35 years of marriage…

and that much misery is enough!’

‘Dad, what are you talking about?’ the son screams.

‘We can’t stand the sight of each other any longer,’ the old man says.

‘We’re sick of each other, and I’m sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Hong Kong and tell her!’